I hear that argument a lot too.
Thing is, that argument is based on the notion that God isn't living up to whatever moral or ethical expectations are being presented.
My mom died this summer from lung cancer. She didn't die from God punishing her. She wasn't "taken from me." She died because she insisted on putting nicotine in her lungs for 56 years and it eventually caught up to her. End of story.
We have freewill, and having freewill means we sometimes make bad things happen to ourselves and to others. Sure, not all tragedies and pain come from decisions people make. Natural illnesses happen. Natural disasters happen. Accidents happen. They just happen. How we deal with them is the true test of our faith in God. It's easy to worship and hold on to faith when everything's sunshine and puppies. It's a lot harder when we're suffering because of things we can't control. That's the whole point of being able to go to God for comfort. He isn't always going to relieve our suffering, but at least we don't have to go through with it alone.
"He who takes offense when no offense is intended is a fool, and he who takes offense when offense is intended is a greater fool."
"Don't take refuge in the false security of consensus."