Wow. Yes, we will pray for you.
That being said, I want to say, I can relate. My husband and I have been in the same rut for 10 years also. As much as I have tried to help him with bringing in an income, nearly ALL of my efforts have failed, and the ones that didn't fail altogether, didn't bring in enough for us to get out of these circumstances.
I finally, after some reading, have come to the conclusion that God wants us just where we are for His own reason, and NOTHING we do will change our situation until it is God's will that we do something different. All I can do is to ask God to continue to bless my work when I sit down work, ask him to continue to provide our daily bread. That much we continue to receive. I have even ventured so far as to ask for other Wants of things in my life that are not necessary to live, but am seeing the beginnings to an answer of that prayer. He showed me a door and it's up to me to use it. I have to follow through on my own.
He is at work, but you just have to trust that your answer will come, but it will come on God's time, not ours. If you still have that long commute, why not use that time in the morning and evening to pray? How about before bed? Can you pray with your family before bedtime? We pray together as a family (Lord's Prayer), and then we have time for Special Prayers, for specific things we need(health, courage, etc), giving thanks, praying for others.
Some other things to think about:
Give up your talents to God, ask Him to show you how to use your talents to bring glory to Him. He gave you your talents, they are His.
Surrender your Will. Stop trying to push in any particular direction. Ask Him to show you the right path.
Wait on Him. If you do not get an answer right away, do nothing. Just wait for His answer.
Start going to church on Sunday. (I really have to fight the devil on this one EVERY Sunday, also.) I read a great comment somewhere about how it is not just important for you to go church for you, so you can hear the word of God, but to be there for OTHERS who need a Christian neighbor to help them keep standing up with God as well, and to give THEM a helping hand, a kind word, etc. So go. Not for you, but for them. Start looking for ways you can help those at church.
Be sure to post back and let us know how things are going. And of course, we will pray some more.